Spring Break
He Said
Karl de Vries
Issue date: 10/4/07 Section: Feature
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Well it sounds as if you've done the hard part - connecting on a personal level with your mystery man. Assuming that the phone sex you had with this gentleman was clean, All-American and filled with various scatological messages, it's hopefully not in doubt that he's a level headed guy and not about to stuff your head into a refrigerator.
For a direct answer, I would say give it some time to "feel him out," so to speak. Your man, for all you know, isn't quite ready to go the distance either; you don't know until you've asked. Perhaps he's content with getting some malted milkshakes at Johnny Rockets; maybe he wants to just hook up, or maybe he wants to give you a presentation of the skills that made him an all-state trombone player in high school.
Have sex when you feel like it's the right time to have sex. There's no need to put unwarranted or unnecessary pressure on either yourself or your cyber-boy. Presumably, you "love" him for the man he is, not the broadness of his shoulders or the girth of his … biceps.
Besides, there's a big difference between speaking to people over the phone and meeting them in person. On the phone I sound like I'm 6'3" with a baritone register that could make chocolate melt. In reality, I'm an Anthony Michael Hall look-a-like with a Woody Allen complex. Take the cue of all too many women whom I've met in my life; save your final judgment for when you get a chance to converse with him face-to-face.
Best of luck to you; hopefully your boyfriend's looks will have more in common with Johnny Depp than that of, say, Quasimodo. And remember, there are no awkward questions - just awkward people.
For a direct answer, I would say give it some time to "feel him out," so to speak. Your man, for all you know, isn't quite ready to go the distance either; you don't know until you've asked. Perhaps he's content with getting some malted milkshakes at Johnny Rockets; maybe he wants to just hook up, or maybe he wants to give you a presentation of the skills that made him an all-state trombone player in high school.
Have sex when you feel like it's the right time to have sex. There's no need to put unwarranted or unnecessary pressure on either yourself or your cyber-boy. Presumably, you "love" him for the man he is, not the broadness of his shoulders or the girth of his … biceps.
Besides, there's a big difference between speaking to people over the phone and meeting them in person. On the phone I sound like I'm 6'3" with a baritone register that could make chocolate melt. In reality, I'm an Anthony Michael Hall look-a-like with a Woody Allen complex. Take the cue of all too many women whom I've met in my life; save your final judgment for when you get a chance to converse with him face-to-face.
Best of luck to you; hopefully your boyfriend's looks will have more in common with Johnny Depp than that of, say, Quasimodo. And remember, there are no awkward questions - just awkward people.